By the time you are reading this my sister will have packed up her life to head to college in Florida. I’m excited for her, proud of her, and honestly… a little in my feelings about it. Growing up together, she’s been my built-in best friend, my sounding board, and my partner-in-crime. Now, for the first time, hundreds of miles will separate us.
It’s such a strange season, I’m in my 20s, building my own career and life, but her moving away feels like the end of a chapter we’ve shared for years. Here’s what I’m learning (and feeling) about navigating a sibling transition like this:
1. Give Yourself Permission to Feel All the Feelings
Yes, I’m happy for her. But I’m also sad. And that’s okay. You can celebrate someone’s growth while still grieving the changes it brings to your relationship. Allow yourself to miss them, cry if you need to, and acknowledge that it’s an adjustment for both of you.
2. Find New Ways to Stay Connected
FaceTime calls. Random memes. A shared playlist. Mailing little “thinking of you” packages. The dynamic will change, but technology makes it easier to stay present in each other’s lives. You just have to be intentional about it.
3. Visit When You Can, But Respect Their Space
It’s tempting to plan trips ASAP, trust me I was trying to plan a trip there in September, but remember: they’re building their own routine. Give them space to grow, then plan visits that feel like a treat for both of you.
4. Focus on Your Own Growth, Too
When a sibling moves away, it’s also a nudge to check in with yourself. What’s the next chapter you’re stepping into? How can you deepen your own independence while still being a supportive sibling?
5. Celebrate the New Chapter
The best part? You get to watch them step into their dreams. Sure, you’ll miss the late-night talks and inside jokes, but you’ll gain new stories, new adventures, and a stronger bond in a different way.
Final Thought
Saying goodbye, even for a season, is never easy. But just because your sibling is moving away doesn’t mean the closeness is gone. It just means you’re learning how to love each other from a little further away.
To my sister: Florida is lucky to have you. And no matter the miles, I’ll always be in your corner.
BIG GIRL TIME 
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