BIG GIRL TIME

I have had my fair share of friendships in the past and many of them I still am apart of today. But some I am not and I have learned so much from them. Losing or gaining a friend is really not easy. Often times we find ourselves hurt from past disappointments making it hard to make new friends, and scared to experience the pain from breaking it off with one.

Listen, one thing I have definitely learned while being a Big Girl is that I can not give everyone access to my time, but I also can not shield everyone out because of past disappointments.

As a Big Girl you will be required to make new friends or at least acquaintances. But also as a Big Girl some of our old friendships that were filled with nothing but jealousy, envy, and childish ways will have to go.

Let me tell you a story. Once I had a friend who meant the world to me. Me and her would tell everything to each other…and I mean everything. Over the years of knowing her she began slacking as a friend but also as a person. She left school to be with her boyfriend at the time, got trapped in a verbally abusive relationship, stopped hanging out with the people she loved, and started to feel unmotivated as a person.

Even through all of this I still loved this girl with all my heart. She often times was my best friend. But after so many times of walking with her throughout her pain and struggles, helping her on her feet, sticking beside her through every trial, while I was at my lowest she was no where to be found.

I tell you all this to let you know that in 2025, friendships that are one sided have to end. Not everyone in your life is meant to see your next season. Some are limited edition and eventually have to go. Look at your friendships make sure that you are both encouraging each other, growing each other, and sowing seeds of Jesus in each others lives. Pick up the slack where you missed the mark but also know when to step away.

I will end on a quote by Martin Luther King JR. “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”